Coaching is not always an easy process. This is especially true when it comes to dealing with one’s self. Dr. Gary Collins has some great insight on how to create a strategy for self-coaching. This strategy, along with other great insights can be found in Dr. Collins’ book entitled Christian Coaching. Here is an excerpt from his book. “For self-coaching to be of greatest effectiveness, you must be highly motivated and take actions to supply the principles. It’s always better to have another person to hold you accountable, give encouragement, discuss your progress, and bring an outsider’s perspective. Recognize, too, that ultimate transformation is from God. Progress in self-coaching is most effective when you ask for the Holy Spirit to guide you. Professional coaches have identified several hundred coaching strategies or techniques. The following provide only a limited number of basic principles to get you moving. Answer each question or complete each assignment on paper. Perhaps you can record your answers in a self-coaching notebook. Take your time to complete each assignment, and realize that it will take you several weeks or months to work through the process.
- Answer this question: What is your relationship with Jesus Christ? Find a Bible and read John 3:16. Are you willing to let him completely guide your life and the coaching process? Think before you answer. Without his presence and guidance in your life, your self-coaching might be limited.
- Take time to read the Bible and pray every day. If time is short and you can’t do any better, read the Five Minute New Testament (which takes you through the entire New Testament in a year by reading for five minutes every day) and pray when you’re in the shower. Keep a record on your calendar to tally your consistency.
- Write down one, two, or at most, three issues in your life that you’d like to see change. Be specific. For example, don’t write “to be happier.” That’s too vague. Ask what specific change might make you happier. For example, “to have time to read and listen to music at least twice a week for one hour each time,” “to get everything cleaned out of the garage,” or “to get a promotion at work in the next six months.”
- Think of a time in your life when you were really happy. Does that memory change your response to the above question?
- How satisfied are you with the different aspects of your life at present? Complete the “Graph of Life” . What does this exercise tell you about issues that you must need to work on in your life?
- Complete the “Rules of Self-Discovery”. What do these tell you about yourself? Discuss these with someone who knows you well. Based on the discussion, write what you’ve discovered about yourself.
- Think back over your life. In what things have you succeeded? What things have you done that God seems to have blessed? Write these down. From the list, what can you learn about yourself?” (Christian Coaching, Gary R, Collins, PH.D Page 271-272)