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Difficult People Can Be Annoying

How to Deal With Difficult PeopleDealing With Difficult People at Home, Work, and Church

Over the years, I have had to deal with difficult people. There could be many more titles, phrases, and words that could be used to refer to this type of person.   I have found that the areas of my life that seem to bring the greatest challenges are those areas that involve difficult people.

Most of the people that I coach and counsel with seem to have a majority of people that they enjoy working with each day. However, every leader I know has at least one difficult person in the crowd that simply annoys them.

Here are some of the characteristics that I have seen over the years that Difficult People possess.

Difficult People

  • Are miserable people who enjoy company. They often seem to have a desire to recruit others into their misery.
  • Find if difficult to listen to others. Their inability is stop talking about the negatives of life seem to be something they enjoy. Their failure to pay attention to what other people have to say is weak.
  • Are high maintenance. It takes a lot to deal with a difficult person. The energy and time it takes to please, comfort or encourage this person is exhausting.
  • Are needy people. They would never admit this. However, their desire to be difficult with others is proof that they are insecure and need attention. Chances are, they would be difficult if they were not in need of something in their life.
  • Are petty. They seem to have a problem focusing on the good things in life and are always pulling up the trivial and the mundane.
  • Are critical of others. Because of their pettiness they are pros at being critical.
  • Are opinionated to an annoying degree. This type of person lives in their own world. The thoughts and opinions of others mean little to this person.

How to Handle Difficult People

The Bible gives some guidance on dealing with difficult people. The Apostle Paul wrote,

“Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord…” ~ Hebrews 12:14

“Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.
Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in doing so you will heap coals of fire on his head.”
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” ~ “Romans 12:17-21

Jesus taught his disciples how to deal with difficult people when he said,

“Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” ~ Matthew 7:12

Jesus also told his disciples,

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.
For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.” ~ Matthew 5:43-48

Dealing with challenging people can be difficult. However, the teachings of Jesus give a firm foundation to address this problem.

How are you doing in dealing with difficult people at work, home, or at church?

Dale Roach

Leadership Style of King Solomon

King Solomon Leadership StyleA Brief History of the Leadership Style of King Solomon

King Solomon was the third king of Israel from 962-922 BC. While King he maintained his father’s (King David) kingdom from the north and east borders of the Aramean state of Zobah to the border of Eygpt.

Solomon carried on the legacy his father left behind while developing and adding to the fortification of the kingdom. History records that Solomon was the key leader in developing the a strong chariot defenses of the country.

Solomon accumulated chariots and horses; he had fourteen hundred chariots and twelve thousand horses, which he kept in the chariot cities and also with him in Jerusalem.” ~ 2 Chronicles 1:14

Along with creating a great army the King Solomon biography also records the practice of his recruitment of skilled laborers to develop a manufacturing enterprise.

King Solomon sent to Tyre and brought Huram, whose mother was a widow from the tribe of Naphtali and whose father was from Tyre and a skilled craftsman in bronze. Huram was filled with wisdom, with understanding and with knowledge to do all kinds of bronze work. He came to King Solomon and did all the work assigned to him.” ~ 1 Kings 7:13-14

On one occasion while Jesus was teaching he referred to “Solomon in all his glory.” (Matthew 6:29)  He said to his disciples,

“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin.  Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.” ~ Matthew 6:28-29

The history of King Solomon shows the skills of a great leader. As one studies the life of this leader, there are skills that are revealed. Solomon was an organizer, an administrator, a builder, an entrepreneur, a diplomat, a merchant, a visionary, a dreamer and a wise man.

Solomon Was an Organizer

One of the true signs of a healthy leader can be seen in the way they can organize those who are under their leadership. The Old Testament book of 1st Kings shows how Solomon recruited a core group of leaders to help develop his kingdom.

So King Solomon ruled over all Israel. And these were his chief officials:

Azariah son of Zadok—the priest;

Elihoreph and Ahijah, sons of Shisha—secretaries;

Jehoshaphat son of Ahilud—recorder;

Benaiah son of Jehoiada—commander in chief;

Zadok and Abiathar—priests;

Azariah son of Nathan—in charge of the district governors;

Zabud son of Nathan—a priest and adviser to the king;

Ahishar—palace administrator;

Adoniram son of Abda—in charge of forced labor.” ~ 1 Kings 4:1-6 (italics and bold added)

Solomon Was an Administrator

A good leader is a good administrator.  Solomon showed administration skills when he divided the nation of Israel into twelve districts.

Solomon had twelve district governors over all Israel, who supplied provisions for the king and the royal household. Each one had to provide supplies for one month in the year.  These are their names:

Ben-Hur—in the hill country of Ephraim;

Ben-Deker—in Makaz, Shaalbim, Beth Shemesh and Elon Bethhanan;

Ben-Hesed—in Arubboth (Sokoh and all the land of Hepher were his);

Ben-Abinadab—in Naphoth Dor (he was married to Taphath daughter of Solomon);

Baana son of Ahilud—in Taanach and Megiddo, and in all of Beth Shan next to Zarethan below Jezreel, from Beth Shan to Abel Meholah across to Jokmeam;

Ben-Geber—in Ramoth Gilead (the settlements of Jair son of Manasseh in Gilead were his, as well as the region of Argob in Bashan and its sixty large walled cities with bronze gate bars);

Ahinadab son of Iddo—in Mahanaim;

Ahimaaz—in Naphtali (he had married Basemath daughter of Solomon);

Baana son of Hushai—in Asher and in Aloth;

Jehoshaphat son of Paruah—in Issachar;

Shimei son of Ela—in Benjamin;

Geber son of Uri—in Gilead (the country of Sihon king of the Amorites and the country of Og king of Bashan). He was the only governor over the district. ~ I Kings 4:7-19

In these districts, Solomon helps create organizational leaders and support groups.

Solomon Was a Builder

When it came to building, Solomon also showed his skills in teamwork and team development. In 1st Kings 5:13-16 the scriptures show the king’s skills in recruiting a building team.

  • He brought together a team of 30,000 men to create a labor force(verse 13)
  • He sent them out in shifts of 10,000 a month (verse 14)
  • He recruited a team leader. His name was Adoniram. (verse 14)
  • He had 70,000 men who were recruited in this team to be the movers and carriers of all the stonework. (verse 15)
  • He recruited 80,000 men to become stonecutters.
  • He also had 3,300 men who were supervisors and foremen for the work.

Solomon Was an Entrepreneur

Solomon had the ability to take something old and create something new. During the fourth year of his reign as King, Solomon started to build the a Temple. This temple project began 480 years after the people of Israel were freed from their Egyptian bondage. (1 Kings 6:1)

2 Chronicles says,

“Then Solomon began to build the temple of the Lord in Jerusalem on Mount Moriah, where the Lord had appeared to his father David. It was on the threshing floor of Araunah the Jebusite, the place provided by David.  He began building on the second day of the second month in the fourth year of his reign.” ~ 2 Chronicles 3:1-2

Solomon Was a Diplomat

As to Solomon’s skill as a diplomat, his behavior can be seen in how he chose his wives. Political arrangements were the cause of many of Solomon’s marriages. On one occasion, Solomon married an Egyptian Pharaoh’s daughter.

“Solomon made an alliance with Pharaoh king of Egypt and married his daughter. He brought her to the City of David until he finished building his palace and the temple of the Lord, and the wall around Jerusalem.” ~ 1 Kings 3:1

Another passage of scripture that tells of this connection is –

“Pharaoh king of Egypt had attacked and captured Gezer. He had set it on fire. He killed its Canaanite inhabitants and then gave it as a wedding gift to his daughter, Solomon’s wife.” ~ 1 Kings 9:16

Solomon was able to connect with kings like Pharaoh and others from very diverse groups. In his marriages, he also connected with countries and kings from surrounding areas like Moab, Ammon, and Edom.

Solomon Was a Merchant

This king showed interest in many kinds of money making adventures but according to 1 Kings 10:26-29 Solomon was a strong buyer and seller of horses.

”Solomon accumulated chariots and horses; he had fourteen hundred chariots and twelve thousand horses, which he kept in the chariot cities and also with him in Jerusalem.  The king made silver as common in Jerusalem as stones, and cedar as plentiful as sycamore-fig trees in the foothills.  Solomon’s horses were imported from Egypt and from Kue —the royal merchants purchased them from Kue at the current price.  They imported a chariot from Egypt for six hundred shekels of silver, and a horse for a hundred and fifty. They also exported them to all the kings of the Hittites and of the Arameans.” ~ 1 Kings 10:26-29

It does appear that Solomon’s interaction with other people had a focus toward commercial ends.

Solomon Was a Visionary and Dreamer

The first dream of Solomon was recorded 1 Kings 3:5-15.

“At Gibeon the Lord appeared to Solomon during the night in a dream, and God said, “Ask for whatever you want me to give you.”

Solomon answered, “You have shown great kindness to your servant, my father David, because he was faithful to you and righteous and upright in heart. You have continued this great kindness to him and have given him a son to sit on his throne this very day.

“Now, Lord my God, you have made your servant king in place of my father David. But I am only a little child and do not know how to carry out my duties.  Your servant is here among the people you have chosen, a great people, too numerous to count or number.  So give your servant a discerning heart to govern your people and to distinguish between right and wrong. For who is able to govern this great people of yours?”

The Lord was pleased that Solomon had asked for this.  So God said to him, “Since you have asked for this and not for long life or wealth for yourself, nor have asked for the death of your enemies but for discernment in administering justice,  I will do what you have asked. I will give you a wise and discerning heart, so that there will never have been anyone like you, nor will there ever be.  Moreover, I will give you what you have not asked for—both wealth and honor—so that in your lifetime you will have no equal among kings.  And if you walk in obedience to me and keep my decrees and commands as David your father did, I will give you a long life.”  Then Solomon awoke—and he realized it had been a dream.

He returned to Jerusalem, stood before the ark of the Lord’s covenant and sacrificed burnt offerings and fellowship offerings. Then he gave a feast for all his court.” ~ 1 Kings 3:5-15

Solomon’s second dream:

“When Solomon had finished building the temple of the Lord and the royal palace, and had achieved all he had desired to do, the Lord appeared to him a second time, as he had appeared to him at Gibeon.  The Lord said to him:

“I have heard the prayer and plea you have made before me; I have consecrated this temple, which you have built, by putting my Name there forever. My eyes and my heart will always be there.

 “As for you, if you walk before me faithfully with integrity of heart and uprightness, as David your father did, and do all I command and observe my decrees and laws,  I will establish your royal throne over Israel forever, as I promised David your father when I said, ‘You shall never fail to have a successor on the throne of Israel.’

“But if you or your descendants turn away from me and do not observe the commands and decrees I have given you and go off to serve other gods and worship them,  then I will cut off Israel from the land I have given them and will reject this temple I have consecrated for my Name. Israel will then become a byword and an object of ridicule among all peoples.  This temple will become a heap of rubble. All who pass by will be appalled and will scoff and say, ‘Why has the Lord done such a thing to this land and to this temple?’ People will answer, ‘Because they have forsaken the Lord their God, who brought their ancestors out of Egypt, and have embraced other gods, worshiping and serving them—that is why the Lord brought all this disaster on them.’” ~ 1 Kings 9:1-9

Solomon Was a Wise Man

The word wisdom and the name Solomon compliment one another. The Wisdom of Solomon is a phrase that implies great skill. 1 Kings Chapter 4 has this to say about this gifted man.

“God gave Solomon wisdom and very great insight, and a breadth of understanding as measureless as the sand on the seashore.  Solomon’s wisdom was greater than the wisdom of all the people of the East, and greater than all the wisdom of Egypt.  He was wiser than anyone else, including Ethan the Ezrahite—wiser than Heman, Kalkol and Darda, the sons of Mahol. And his fame spread to all the surrounding nations. He spoke three thousand proverbs and his songs numbered a thousand and five.  He spoke about plant life, from the cedar of Lebanon to the hyssop that grows out of walls. He also spoke about animals and birds, reptiles and fish.  From all nations people came to listen to Solomon’s wisdom, sent by all the kings of the world, who had heard of his wisdom.” ~ I Kings 4:29-34

King Solomon is a great example of true leadership. His skills as Solomon an organizer, an administrator, a builder, an entrepreneur, a diplomat, a merchant, a visionary, a dreamer and a wise man are worth studying.

How are you doing as a leader?

Do you have the skills of King Solomon?

Dale Roach

Powerful Lessons With Image Quotes

Powerful Lessons With Image Quotes

Sometimes getting a message across is a challenge.  Image quotes can be a helpful teaching resource.  One of the greatest teachers known to humanity, Jesus, used images to get his message across when he told his parables.

A study done at the University of Texas found that people remember things best by what they see, hear, say and do. (Metcalf 1997):

  • 10 percent of what they read;
  • 20 percent of what they hear;
  • 30 percent of what they see;
  • 50 percent of what they see and hear;
  • 70 percent of what they say; and
  • 90 percent of what they do and say

When an author combines an image and quotes together, they are creating a powerful leadership tool.  Here are a few images that I have included in some of my posts to get an idea or thought across to the reader.  Some of the images I used are simply a pleasant background behind the quote.

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What do you think about image quotes?

Have you come across an image quote that has taught you a significant lesson?

Do you think the combination of words with images are helpful in teaching a truth?

Bible Verses About Friendship

hello-my-friend-1529130Friendship is a great gift from God? Webster defines a friend as a person who you like and enjoy being with or a person who helps or supports you. What does the Bible teach about friendship?

Here are a few Bible verses about friendship.

Bible Verses on Friendship

1 Samuel 20:42

Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, for we have sworn friendship with each other in the name of the Lord, saying, ‘The Lord is witness between you and me, and between your descendants and my descendants forever.’” Then David left, and Jonathan went back to the town.

Job 6:14

“Anyone who withholds kindness from a friend forsakes the fear of the Almighty.

Job 17:5

If anyone denounces their friends for reward, the eyes of their children will fail.

Job 42:10

After Job had prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortunes and gave him twice as much as he had before.

Psalm 122:8

For the sake of my family and friends, I will say, “Peace be within you.”

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Encouragement Quotes from the Bible

Encouragement Quotes from the BibleHow do you define encouragement? The Bible is saturated with inspirational words of encouragement. Here are a few scriptures of encouragement quotes from the Bible.

Encouragement Bible Verses from the Old Testament

Deuteronomy 31:6

Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the LORD your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

Isaiah 41:10

…fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Zephaniah 3:17

The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.

New Testament Bible Verses for Encouragement

Romans 8:16-17

The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.

James 1:12

Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him.

1 Peter 5:6-8

Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

James 1:2-4

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.

Have you found any quotes of encouragement from the Old or New Testament?

Teamwork and Football Season

teamwork-and-football-seasonTeamwork and Football Season

Football season is here! Along with the changing of the weather comes some great events of watching our favorite team.  Here are some thoughts about teamwork and football season.

The subject of teamwork and team development are two subjects that I talk and preach about often. The reason I do this is because the Bible often speaks of God’s people developing these skills. Although the word “teamwork” is not found within the Bible, the concept is present in the Old and New Testament scripture. It has been God’s plan from the beginning of creation that we do not work alone. Consider these passages of scripture.

  • The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” ~ Genesis 2:18
  • “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil.” ~ Ecclesiastes 4:9
  • “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” ~ Proverbs 27:17

These are just a few passages of Scripture that show that it has never been God’s intention for us to ignore or avoid working together. There are many churches that claim that they have the skill of teamwork; however, saying you have these skills and truly practicing these skills are two different matters.

As I witnessed the actions of various congregations over the past three decades I have come to recognize healthy teamwork and poor teamwork. Here are six practices that I have noticed about churches that work as healthy and productive congregational teams.

  • Churches that practice healthy teamwork rely on Jesus Christ as the Lord and Master of everything they do. Their reliance on Jesus keeps the church together. There is no question as to who is the Head Coach.
  • Churches that practice healthy teamwork are truly praying churches. Wednesday Night Prayer Meeting is literally Prayer Meeting. These churches know that when God’s people stop coming together to pray (like they did on the Day of Pentecost in Acts chapter 2) they will cease to be a unified force. When they come together to pray, it is like being in the huddle before action is taken.
  • Churches that practice healthy teamwork really do love the people that God has brought into their church. These churches do not allow cliques to invade the fellowship. A good football team guards the quarterback, protects other team members, and they are not self-promoting. Strong churches do the same by praying and supporting the church staff and all members.
  • Churches that practice healthy teamwork understand the Church is just that – The Church of Jesus and not an organization, business or a club. A good football team is proud of their name. A good church is also proud of their name.
  • Churches that practice healthy teamwork do not allow an individual or a group of people to dominate or overpower the fellowship with their personal agenda or plans. Once again, a healthy fellowship sees Jesus as Lord. The strong churches never surrender Jesus’ Lordship to any human. A strong football team may have a skillful running back or a talented field goal kicker, however; neither of them is any good if the team does not support them. This need for one another is also true for church members.
  • Finally, a church that practices healthy teamwork claims what Jesus said to His disciples – “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” ~ Matthew 18:20 A healthy football team member knows that without those who are on the field with them, they are pretty much worthless. So it is with the church and relationship with the Lord. As long as Believers unit together under the powerful name of Jesus, call upon the influence of the Holy Spirit, and are obedient to the Heavenly Father, that church will be a healthy team.

How is your church doing this season?

What is Strategic Planning?

What is Strategic Planning?

In an article by Dr. Carter McNamara entitled, “All About Strategic Planning” these three powerful quotes are found.

  • “Simply put, strategic planning determines where an organization is going over the next year or more, how it’s going to get there and how it’ll know if it got there or not.”*
  • “Strategic planning can be exhilarating when coming up with new visions and missions and values….But without careful action planning – and diligently ensuring actions are carried out – the plan ends up collecting dust on a shelf.”*
  • “It’s okay to deviate from a plan. But planners should understand the reason for the deviation and update the plan to reflect the new direction.”*


* These quotes can be found on page 1034 of  NIV Leadership Bible: Leading by The Book, New International Version, edited by Dr Sid Buzzell, Dr. Kenneth Boa and Bill Perkins, Zondervan Press, 2013.

3 Christian Thoughts About the Government?

Thoughts-About-the-Government3 Christian Thoughts About the Government?

In his letter to the early New Testament believers, the Apostle Paul had some advice about the government.  He wrote in his letter to the Roman church —

“Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. For rulers hold no terror for those who do right, but for those who do wrong. Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and you will be commended. For the one in authority is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for rulers do not bear the sword for no reason. They are God’s servants, agents of wrath to bring punishment on the wrongdoer. Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also as a matter of conscience. Continue reading