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What Does Conflict Mean?

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Conflict is a word that is being used worldwide to describe a variety of events from war to protests. What does conflict mean?  Is there a good conflict definition?

Some people define conflict as a friction or opposing actions resulting from actual or perceived differences or incompatibilities.

As a verb, the word conflict refers to an event that creates a collision or disagreement. Conflict also produces actions that are contradictory, opposing or clashing. This action can also create an environment where a fight, battle, struggle or strife evolve.

The creation of conflict takes place when individuals or groups find themselves to be incompatible, opposing or antagonistic. Conflict usually creates an environment of mental struggles that are grown out of opposing demands and impulses.

Is There A Good Definition of Conflict?

Below are some great quotes from the Bible that can further define the meaning of conflict and how to handle it.

“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.” ~ Matthew 18:15-17

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” ~ Ephesians 4:31-32

“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.” ~ Matthew 18:15-22

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.” ~ Matthew 5:9

“So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.” ~ Matthew 5:23-24

How do you handle conflict?

Do you have any good advice in dealing with conflict?

What does conflict mean to you?

Do you have a clear conflict definition?

Helpful Quotes About Change

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Change is not easy! In fact, change is a challenge for most people. Here are some helpful quotes about change.

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. ~ George Bernard Shaw

To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often. ~ Winston Churchill

Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. ~ John F. Kennedy

Change yourself and your work will seem different. ~ Norman Vincent Peale

Policies are many, Principles are few, Policies will change, Principles never do. ~ John C. Maxwell Continue reading

Leadership Skills List of 6

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Leadership Skills List of 6

Do you have a leadership skills list?  Do you have a list of ideas or thoughts that are helping you grow as a leader?  A strong leader has qualities that others will notice.  Their skill as a leader will be obvious to those around them.  Some of the very basic qualities of those who have developed leadership skills will include:

  • Commitment to the cause
  • An ability to have a sense of humor
  • Confidence in those they lead
  • Honesty
  • Trustworthiness
  • An ability to encourage and inspire others
  • An inspirational personality that encourages others.

The following is a collection of a leadership skills list of 6 different articles that I have posted on Like A Team.

1. Top Ten Christian Leadership Skills

2. Spiritual Priorities Show Strong Leadership Skills

3. Prayer and Leadership Skills

4. Growing Strong Leadership Skills from Failure

5. Quotes and Sayings That Help Develop Leadership Skills

6. Quotes and Sayings on Growing Leadership Skills

How are your leadership skills?

Do you have any good resources that have helped you develop your skills as a leader?

Dale Roach

Inspirational Quotes About Life

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Life as a Christian can be extremely challenging.  It is often good to gain good advice from those who are faithful to the Faith.  Here are some good quotes about life as a Christian.

“The Christian life is not a constant high. I have my moments of deep discouragement. I have to go to God in prayer with tears in my eyes, and say, ‘O God, forgive me,’ or ‘Help me.” – Billy Graham

“Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can. In all the places you can. At all the times you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can.” ― John Wesley

“The bottom line in the Christian life is obedience and most people don’t even like the word.” – Charles Stanley

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Leadership Definition for Your Church

Leadership DefinitionAre you trying to find a good leadership definition as a Christian leader?  There are a few places to find the answer to your search. Here are some posts that may help you find a helpful leadership definition.

Quotes About Leadership by Thom Rainer

Quotes About Leadership by Chuck Lawless

Quotes About Leadership by Al Mohler

Quotes About Leadership by Danny Akin

Quotes About Leadership by Chuck Swindoll

Quotes About Leadership by Ministry Insights

Here are just a few samples of quotes from the authors and scholars above that may help you in finding a good leadership definition. Continue reading

9 Characteristics of Jesus as a Teacher

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When Jesus began his earthly ministry, he introduced to the world a mission that focused on three basic principles. Christ came into the world not only to be the Savior, but he also came to be

The New Testament is very clear about the characteristics of Jesus.

Here are 9 characteristics of Jesus as a teacher, as they are recorded in the Gospels.

  1. Jesus Was a Teacher Who Taught With Power

Jesus began his ministry by engaging people in the synagogue as a public teacher. This was an activity open to any layman who was competent to teach.

Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people. – Matthew 4:23

The public teaching of Jesus, in the Gospel of Matthew, was surrounded by his healing ministry. During his teaching ministry, Christ also healed the multitudes of every kind of problem. This teaching/healing ministry also addressed the spiritual world of the demons.

In all of his teaching and healing exercises, the main foundational truth that Jesus was promoting was a simple one.

“Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people. 24 News about him spread all over Syria, and people brought to him all who were ill with various diseases, those suffering severe pain, the demon-possessed, those having seizures, and the paralyzed; and he healed them.” Matthew 4:23-24

  1. Jesus Was a Teacher Whose Teaching Was Unique

The Sermon on the Mount is one of the New Testament’s greatest leadership lesson plans.

When Jesus was speaking to this mass of people he was reflecting upon the group dynamics. (connect to Sermon on the Mount). Jesus had the ability to share a lesson that could be understood by adults and children alike.

The teaching style of Jesus held the attention of those he was speaking to. Matthew wrote,

“When Jesus had finished saying these things, the crowds were amazed at his teaching…” Matthew 7:28

The teaching style of Jesus drew the attention of massive crowds. His style was also one that showed he had authority.

“The common people were astonished. He was not a scribe. He had no religious credentials. Yet he spoke like a king. His sayings were a new Sinai. The scribes quoted authorities; he spoke with authority. They loved tradition, and no rabbi won a hearing unless he could prove that his word was based on past wisdom; so the scribes drew stale water from closed cisterns. But the words of Jesus were like a spring, clear, fresh, with power to slake the soul’s thirst.” (The Interpreter’s Bible, New Testament Articles, Matthew and Mark, page 335)

  1. Jesus Was a Teacher Who Taught at Various Places to Various People

The ministry of Jesus was one that covered a variety of territories. Those areas included Galilee, Judea, Samaria, Perea, and Decapolis (“ten cities”).

His ministry was forced to move away from his hometown and into other areas due to a lack of faith, trust and belief in him. Matthew tells about this event in his Gospel (Matthew 15:38). However, Mark tells it in a much stronger fashion.

“Jesus left there and went to his hometown, accompanied by his disciples. When the Sabbath came, he began to teach in the synagogue, and many who heard him were amazed.

“Where did this man get these things?” they asked. “What’s this wisdom that has been given him? What are these remarkable miracles he is performing? Isn’t this the carpenter? Isn’t this Mary’s son and the brother of James, Joseph, Judas and Simon? Aren’t his sisters here with us?” And they took offense at him.

Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his own town, among his relatives and in his own home.”  He could not do any miracles there, except lay his hands on a few sick people and heal them. He was amazed at their lack of faith.” – Mark 6:1-6

The Gospel writing Luke also speaks of Jesus’ traveling ministry.

Then Jesus went through the towns and villages, teaching as he made his way to Jerusalem. – Luke 13:22

  1. Jesus Was a Teacher Who Taught With Compassion

Legalism and living by the letter of the Jewish law were powerfully present during the ministry of Jesus. Compassion took a second place to the law. However, this was not the strategy of Jesus. His ministry was one of compassion.

Another time Jesus went into the synagogue, and a man with a shriveled hand was there.  Some of them were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal him on the Sabbath.  Jesus said to the man with the shriveled hand, “Stand up in front of everyone.”

Then Jesus asked them, “Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to kill?” But they remained silent.

He looked around at them in anger and, deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts, said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He stretched it out, and his hand was completely restored. Then the Pharisees went out and began to plot with the Herodians how they might kill Jesus. – Mark 3:1-6

Jesus did not separate his compassion from his ministry or his teaching.

“When Jesus landed and saw a large crowd, he had compassion on them, because they were like sheep without a shepherd. So he began teaching them many things. – Mark 6:34

  1. Jesus Was a Teacher Who Could Teach Scholars

The parables of Jesus are strong examples of how Jesus had the ability to teach to the young, simple and uneducated. His ability to teach was also recognized by the highly educated teachers of the first century.

“One day Jesus was teaching, and Pharisees and teachers of the law were sitting there. They had come from every village of Galilee and from Judea and Jerusalem. And the power of the Lord was with Jesus to heal the sick.” – Luke 5:17

  1. Jesus Was A Teacher Who Taught by Placing People First

On a Sabbath Jesus was teaching in one of the synagogues, and a woman was there who had been crippled by a spirit for eighteen years. She was bent over and could not straighten up at all.  When Jesus saw her, he called her forward and said to her, “Woman, you are set free from your infirmity.” 13 Then he put his hands on her, and immediately she straightened up and praised God.

Indignant because Jesus had healed on the Sabbath, the synagogue leader said to the people, “There are six days for work. So come and be healed on those days, not on the Sabbath.”

The Lord answered him, “You hypocrites! Doesn’t each of you on the Sabbath untie your ox or donkey from the stall and lead it out to give it water? Then should not this woman, a daughter of Abraham, whom Satan has kept bound for eighteen long years, be set free on the Sabbath day from what bound her?”

When he said this, all his opponents were humiliated, but the people were delighted with all the wonderful things he was doing.” – Luke 13:10-17

  1. Jesus Was A Teacher Who Challenged His Followers

Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowd. After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone, and the boat was already a considerable distance from land, buffeted by the waves because the wind was against it.

Shortly before dawn Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. “It’s a ghost,” they said, and cried out in fear.

But Jesus immediately said to them: “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.”

“Lord, if it’s you,” Peter replied, “tell me to come to you on the water.”

 “Come,” he said.

Then Peter got down out of the boat, walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, “Lord, save me!”

Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?” – Matthew 14:22-33

  1. Jesus Was a Teacher Who Taught With Authority and Purpose

On several occasions Jesus was approached and questioned about his authority as a leader. Jesus was questioned about his authority in the Gospel of Luke.

“One day as Jesus was teaching the people in the temple courts and proclaiming the good news, the chief priests and the teachers of the law, together with the elders, came up to him.  “Tell us by what authority you are doing these things,” they said. “Who gave you this authority?”

He replied, “I will also ask you a question. Tell me:  John’s baptism—was it from heaven, or of human origin?”

They discussed it among themselves and said, “If we say, ‘From heaven,’ he will ask, ‘Why didn’t you believe him?’  But if we say, ‘Of human origin,’ all the people will stone us, because they are persuaded that John was a prophet.”

So they answered, “We don’t know where it was from.”

Jesus said, “Neither will I tell you by what authority I am doing these things.” – Luke 20:1-8

  1. Jesus Was a Teacher Who Taught His Disciples to Talk to God

“One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.” – Luke 11:1

In the Gospel of Luke and Matthew, Jesus teaches his disciples how they should pray to God. Here is the familiar “Lord’s Prayer” in Matthew chapter 6.

“This, then, is how you should pray:

“‘Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us today our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one.” (Matthew 6:9-13)

This prayer that Jesus taught his disciples had 6 foundations to build upon

  1. Honor the God of Creation
  2. Ask for God’s Kingdom to come to earth
  3. Request God to supply today’s needs
  4. Ask to be forgiven of acts of sin with a qualification: As we forgive those who sin against us.
  5. Direct us away from temptation
  6. Protect us from evil

These 9 characteristics of Jesus, as a teacher, can encourage and inspire anyone who finds themselves in a leadership role. His example of teaching can help everyone from a parent to a CEO.

Dale Roach

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Effective Leadership as a Coach and Pastor

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When I was a young boy growing up in North Carolina I was taught many lessons about effective leadership and poor leadership.

Football became an important part of my recreational life.  The boys in my family began playing football when we entered the fifth grade.  This continued on through high school and on into college for a few of us.

Coaches became an important part of our lives.  There were some years that we had great experiences with excellent coaches and there were a few years that the coaching experience was not so good.

Through it all the effective leadership of a good coach made a strong impression upon our young lives.

This is also the case for healthy and effective leadership within the local church.  The role of the leader/coach/pastor is essential for the success of the church team.

Here  4 basic behaviors of a strong leader and coach to consider:

1.  An effective leader/coach establishes challenges, but attainable goals.  He is Effective Leadership as a Coach and Pastor 2a visionary with a finish line.

2.  An effective leader or coach realizes that he alone is not the entire team and certainly cannot accomplish the task on his own.  He is a recruiter with a purpose.

3.  Effective leadership create an environment that inspires a team of people to maximum performance by living out the vision before them.  Their actions are stronger than their words. An effective pastor, leader, coach is a person of orchestrated action.

4. One who demonstrates effective leadership helps his team to see the future.  They help those they are working with to see success before it happens.  This leader is a planner with a set goal and a dream to be fulfilled.

What do you think about leadership?

What do you think about pastoring?

What do you think about coaching?

Do you believe that coaching and pastoring are synonymous?

Dale Roach

7 Facts About Trouble Makers in Church

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Many congregations today are in bad shape. Here are some depressing statistics:

  • Every year more than 4000 churches close their doors compared to just over 1000 new church starts!
  • Every year, 2.7 million church members fall into inactivity.
  • They are leaving as hurting and wounded victims-of some kind of abuse, disillusionment, or just plain neglect! (Church Leadership.org)

In other words, there is trouble in the church that is causing many people to simply quit going. Here is the key to this problem – Trouble is caused in most churches by “Trouble Makers!”

The reason that most people have left their church is simply because they did want to be a part of a congregation where Trouble Makers were attending. Most everyone has enough of this kind of person to deal with at work or school.

Here are seven facts about Trouble Makers:

Trouble Makers Have Always Been in Church

These types of personalities are nothing new. They have been around since the first-century church. However, no one wants to deal with them.  This behavior of “avoiding” a Trouble Maker only makes the situation worse.

Trouble Makers Feel That They Are Doing God a Favor

Trouble Makers are self-absorbed, self-centered and have a problem seeing the value in other people. These type of people feel that their presence should be seen as a gift from God. Continue reading