After all, when diverse people come together with varying skills, it would seem that any organization would have great success. However, this is not the case for an overwhelming number of organizations, charity groups, businesses and church organizations.
If you asked the question, “Why is your group failing to succeed?” there often is a response that implies that one or two people are the problem.
It has been my observation that 99% of any organization or group of people want to work together. However, one dominant person out of 100 can blow an organization to smithereens.
Here are some basic facts:
- Most people will avoid a dominant, overbearing, personality at all costs.
- In avoiding a dominant personality, most people simply hope that they will go away.
- Many people find conflict with a dominant personality extremely uncomfortable and would rather walk away than deal with confrontation.
If the three statements above are true, then how do you deal with a dominant person.
Here are nine basic steps that can help in dealing with a dominant personality:
- Work hard to recognize the personality style of those who come across as a dominant people.
- Try to see life from the dominant person’s perspective.
- Do not allow your opinion to be de-valued by a dominant person.
- Calmly speak your opinion to a dominant person.
- Don’t back down because of fear or anxiety.
- Be firm with respect.
- Be straightforward when communicating to a dominant person.
- Develop thick skin and demand respect from strong personalities.
- Never give someone the authority to “Make you mad or upset.” No one has the power to make you do anything.
What is your strategy to deal with a dominant person?
What would you list as number 10 in the list above to help deal with a dominant person?