How do you deal with frustration on the volunteer team, your charity organization or your congregation?
Frustration can be very exhausting for anyone!
Dale Carnegie once said, “Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration, and resentment.” According to Carnegie “frustration” is a fierce emotion. He is not alone in his observation.
Frustration evolves when the goals you aim to for do not take place.
Frustration also occurs when your actions produce fewer results than you think they should.
The frustrations we experience can be dealt with by asking four simple questions
1. How Do You Deal With Frustration That is Internal?
Internal frustration takes place when we are personally disappointed.
We seemingly have a problem in achieving the results we want.
This type of thinking can often produce a lack of confidence. This kind of emotion can lead to a poor opinion of ourselves when it comes to dealing with social situations and issues.
Internal frustration also evolves when there are conflicting or competing goals that do not support one another.
2. How Do You Deal With Frustration That is External?
Another type of frustration grows out of external causes.
These type of frustrated feelings grow from the condition of the atmosphere outside of a person.
These external frustrations can be created by:
- other people
- a situation that is entirely out of one’s control.
Both internal and external frustrations can become very taxing on anyone. Both of these problems have been around for some time.
3. Do I Have To Be Frustrated?
While various life situations (internal and external) may be upsetting and frustrating, do you have to be frustrated?
Here is a great statement to remember, “If you have a problem that can be fixed, then there is no use in being frustrated. If you have a problem that cannot be fixed, then there is no use in being frustrated.”
Being able to face life’s challenges is vital in conquering frustration.
Frustration can be a tremendous problem and can have many effects on the mental and spiritual health of an individual.
There are two choices that everyone has in dealing with frustration:
- A person can feel defeated and exhausted or
- They can take the taxation of their mental, physical and spiritual life as an opportunity in solving the problem that is leading to them to be frustrated.
4. How Can I Deal With My Present Frustrations?
“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” (Isaiah 26:3 NIV)