3 Habits of Lying That Will Destroy Teamwork
Signs of lying in any organization is just about as destruction as an atomic bomb. There are many who believe that some people suffer from what is called a compulsive lying disorder.
Lying is ugly, and it is disastrous. There are no benefits in telling an untruth when it comes to teamwork and team development. Lying can destroy years of work. There are sometimes when a team member finds himself or herself in a situation in which they will say, “Well, it will just be easier to stretch the truth a little bit.” This is a lie. Distorting the truth can hinder years of trust building, friendship and confidence in one another.
The actions of a team member not telling the truth or distorting the truth does not seem like a big deal to some people. One of the basic foundations for solid progressive teamwork is the ability to trust the other members on the team. Without the ability to trust there will be NO teamwork. Lying works against trust.
In understanding the destructive powers of lying it is necessary to know that there are progressive levels of lying. Here are some basic definitions of lying.
Fibbing usually is not seen as a very serious action. In fact, some define “fibbing” as simply stretching the truth. “I am not really lying, I’m just blowing the story up a little.” This is like the story of the “fish that got away.” “You should have seen it, that was the biggest fish I have ever seen!” Fibbing does not seem like a big deal to most people, but those who are comfortable in fibbing usually will not have a problem with fabrication.
Fabrication is one step up from fibbing. When someone fabricates, they have stepped up one more level in lying. Those who fabricate find it easy to create a false story. They do not see how that their “story” will hurt anyone, so there is great ease in telling “the story!” Many people interchange the word “fabrication” with the word “story.” “I didn’t really tell a lie; it was just a story.” The fact is that a fabrication is a lie. After someone becomes comfortable with fibbing, which moves to fabrication the next step in the lying progression is deception.
Many people do not see fibbing and fabrication as big deals, however, those two can easily lead someone to the practice of deception. Deception is a very serious matter. Deception violates trust and dependency between individuals and can be extremely destructive for any teamwork. Deception usually calls for the person practicing it to have a plan and strategy. Two examples of deception are: propaganda and slight of hand. These examples are all about making someone see something that is not there. Deception is difficult to recover from if it is discovered. Deception easily evolves into the practices of equivocation and prevarication. Lying easily grows therefore it is not something that can be ignored. Teamwork and team development is a continual process. This process must be built upon trust. The trust of the team can be destroyed in seconds if “lying” becomes a practice of a team member. When lying is discovered, an evolution of assumptions will begin to take place. Trust will be depleted, and the strength of the team will become weak. No one should use “lying” as a means for team development. It simply does not work. Signs of lying destroys teamwork.