Does healthy criticism exist?
How do you define criticism?
Furthermore, how do you deal with criticism when it comes your way?
No one enjoys the harsh criticism of other people. As a result, it can create division within a group or organization. Most noteworthy, the words of a critic do not have to be negative.
Here is an assessment tool that can help you define criticism better as you deal with this subject.
Answer each question by putting one of the following numbers in the blank:
1 – Never
2 – Sometimes
3 – Usually
4 – Always
1.___I get angry when criticized.
2.___I become defensive when criticized.
3.___I attack the persons who criticize me.
4.___I am unconcerned when criticized.
5.___ Every day I criticize someone.
6.___Being criticized makes me feel insecure.
7.___The best thing to do with criticism is to ignore it.
8.___Being criticized for something makes me want never to try again.
9.___When criticized, I start criticizing others.
10.___My criticism of others is with respect and appreciation.
11.___I see criticism as a helpful tool.
12.___When others criticize me, I know that they are doing it out of respect and concern for me.
13.___I do not take criticism personally.
14.___Criticism gives me a new perspective and valuable insight.
15.___I pray or meditate when criticized.
16.___I learn when criticized.
17.___I try to have all the facts before I criticize someone else.
18.___I forgive people who have criticized me.
Define Criticism for Yourself
How do you take criticism?
Add up your answers from the questions above and place your answers below:
Unhealthy Criticism – score for questions 1-9 _____________
Healthy Criticism – score for questions 10-18 ____________
Where did you score the highest? Was your score unhealthy or healthy?
How did you do in answering these 18 questions? In addition, do you feel that you can learn from criticism or are you always offended?
Some Great Quotes About Healthy and Unhealthy Criticism
Criticism can be an especially relevant tool for learning. Therefore, here are a few thoughts to consider.
- “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie
- “Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.” – Aristotle
- “You can’t let praise or criticism get to you. It’s a weakness to get caught up in either one.” – John Wooden
- “The trouble with most of us is that we’d rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.”– Norman Vincent Peale
- “When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical.”– Unknown
- “The artist doesn’t have time to listen to the critics. The ones who want to be writers read the reviews, the ones who want to write don’t have the time to read reviews.”– William Faulkner
- “If we judge ourselves only by our aspirations and everyone else only their conduct we shall soon reach a very false conclusion.”– Calvin Coolidge
- “I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism.” – Charles Schwab
- “Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his roots.” – Frank A. Clark
- “Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but having faults different from your own.” – Unknown
- “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” – Theodore Roosevelt
- “Before you go and criticize the younger generation, just remember who raised them.” – Unknown
- “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.” – Winston Churchill
- “He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” – Abraham Lincoln
- “One mustn’t criticize other people on grounds where he can’t stand perpendicular himself” – Mark Twain
- “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.” – Benjamin Franklin
- “Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.” – Abraham Lincoln
Finally, criticism can be a gift if expressed positively!
How do you define criticism? What kind of critic are you and how do you take criticism from other people?