Have you ever had any help to deal with conflict?
Have you ever had to deal with conflict on the job, at home or church?
Conflict is not always easy to handle.
Ronald Reagan once explained peace and the meaning of conflict as, “Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.
Another conflict definition can be found in the words of the Reverend Dr. Billy Graham when he wrote, “Embracing conflict can be a joy when we know that irritation and frustration can lead to growth and the re-energizing of ourselves and others. Hot heads and cold hearts never solved anything.”
Dealing with the causes of conflict can be a challenge.
What Does the Bible Say About Dealing With Conflict?
- Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
- Matthew 5:9 – “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
- Matthew 18:15-17 – “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.
- Ephesians 4:31-32 – Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
- Matthew 18:15 – “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.
- Colossians 3:13 – Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
- James 4:1-6 – What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions. You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us”? …
- Ephesians 4:26 – Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
- Matthew 5:24 – Leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
- Matthew 7:5 – You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
- James 1:19-21 – Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.